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On Gratitude and What’s Not Working

22 July, 2013

Moving toward my Core Desired Feelings in The Desire Map*, I completed the section on gratitude and what’s not working. Considering gratitude is one of my favorite words and grateful is one of my favorite feelings, I was excited to get to this part of the workbook, but when I actually worked through it, found it quite challenging. The hard part for me wasn’t finding things to be grateful for, but identifying things that aren’t working and why I’m dissatisfied with this part of my life.

This part was divided into five sections, each asking the same questions: What are you grateful for? Why are you grateful for this? What’s not working? Why are you not satisfied with this?

In Livelihood & Lifestyle, Creativity & Learning, Body & Wellness, Relationships & Society, and Essence & Spirituality, I had no problems coming up with plenty of things to be grateful for and infinite reasons why. I was challenged to come up with what’s not working and why I’m not satisfied with what’s not working. Here’s some of what I came up with:

Livelihood & Lifestyle: I’m grateful for enough money to take care of myself because I know I will have enough to pay my rent, my bills, and still have enough money left over to eat and even have some left over. I’m grateful for a job that is interesting and engaging, which challenges me and forces me to learn new things all the time. I have a hard time getting and staying clean and organized and it makes me uncomfortable. I feel less “together”.

Body & Wellness: I’m grateful for my relative good health because not having to worry about basic health functions is a blessing. We don’t often think about this until we are ill or injured, but I am full of gratitude each and every day for the miraculous things my body does, like breathe without thinking about it. I know I need to have some kind of regular exercise in my life because it will help with both my mental and physical health.

Creativity & Learning: I’m grateful for the desire to be creative because creativity and learning make life interesting. I recognize that I have the capacity and propensity towards learning. Even when things aren’t easy, I continue to learn and grow. Others see potential in me to take on new challenges. I don’t often feel a sense of flow and it makes it hard to create. Rather than a spiritual exercise, I end up feeling like I’m just slogging through and not progressing at all. Because I am not clean and organized, it prevents me from having the time and space to create and without that kind of order, I feel lost.

Relationships & Society: I’m grateful for people who genuinely care about others because taking care of one another in times of need is important to me. I am lucky to have a family who deeply cares about me and who support me. Friends who make me laugh and comfort me when I need a cry make me grateful because having someone you can trust is so important. Communication breakdowns are frustrating and disappointing. When that happens, I often feel defeated and powerless to make relationships work.

Essence & Spirituality: I’m grateful that I have a supportive, curious, and open-minded community that supports my spiritual journey because I am accepted for who I am, which makes me confident, grateful, and brings joy into my life. Creativity and intelligence make me feel I have something to contribute, that I have value. The ability, skill, and knowledge of how to cook and bake so that I can be creative in the kitchen and share my love with others makes me feel I have more to contribute and that I can give of myself in some tangible way. I’m missing a regular spiritual practice that could help with my overall happiness and connection to creativity.

*While this is an affiliate link, I truly do believe in this program and what it will do for my life. I am already appreciative of the workbook and how it makes me more aware of what it is I truly want and how I can achieve my true core desired feelings. I hope sincerely that you will join me, not because I will make money from your purchase, but because I would love to have allies, friends, and co-conspirators along this journey. Please do leave a comment and let me know if you decide to do this program so we can work through it together.

Love a la Carte

A Love List

27 July, 2011

Things I am loving right now:

♥ homemade sourdough pancakes ♥ writing over 1000 words of fiction in the novel I’ve had major writer’s block on ♥ spending the morning at the beach ♥ Red Sox on the radio ♥ Bon Appetit’s Summer Cooking Manifesto ♥ my brother’s newly-announced engagement to a lovely girl from Indonesia (where my brother is currently living and working) ♥ chocolate ice cream ♥ $3.00 bottles of Cabernet Sauvignon that actually taste great ♥ cold-brewed iced coffee ♥ really hearty belly laughs ♥ talking forever on the phone with good friends ♥ fandom collisions ♥ Robot Pony (an enchanting short story) from Madeline Claire Franklin ♥ dreaming of old friends and faraway places ♥ the Bedford DiariesSpotify ♥ homemade popcorn ♥ Boyce Avenue’s cover of Adele’s Rolling in the Deep ♥ anything cold to battle the heat of the summer ♥ starting a new blog with my mom about our adventures cooking our way through our family (and friends) cookbook – Stories: Savory and Sweet ♥ New England Coffee’s Blueberry Cobbler coffee (best iced!) ♥ rewatching Grey’s Anatomy S2 and the soundtrack to it ♥ rain ♥ Hair Raizers Salon ♥ being able to support my friends by buying their books on Smashwords ♥ a dog in my lap while I surf the web ♥

What are you loving right now?

Love a la Carte


20 January, 2010
pie pops

Pie Pops from Bakerella

Love A La Carte features all the little things that make my life just a little more delicious.

♣ Going to bed early with a book and snuggling into the covers. Right now I’m reading Percy Jackson and the Olympians: the Lightning Thief and Eat, Pray, Love. I’m making reading a priority again this year and I’m hoping to complete 26 books this year – that’s one book every two weeks. What are you reading right now?

♣ Chili of all kinds: white, bean, meaty, so spicy it makes the hair on the back of your neck stand up. Our church is having a chili cook-off on the 31st and my roommate is making her “World’s Spiciest 5 Bean Vegan Chili”. YUM. There’s something so comforting about a big bowl of chili. It’s tasty; it’s healthy; it’s comfort food. What’s not to like? Best when served with cornbread, of course.

♣ God Help the Girl.

♣ Movie marathons with good friends. There’s nothing better than settling into a day of laughter and fun indoors when it’s cold outside. Of course, board games and card games work, too. It’s more about the company than anything else.

♣ Starbucks gift cards.

♣ All the awesome Alice in Wonderland related things lately: Alice on SyFy (dvd coming in March), Tim Burton’s Alice in Wonderland (coming to theaters in March), the soundtrack and score to Tim Burton’s Alice in Wonderland, the Interactive AdventureUrban Decay’s Alice in Wonderland Book of Shadows Palette, and the following from Etsy: this lovely charm necklace, this whimsical White Rabbit necklace, these distressed tags with ribbonthe Mad Hatter tote bag – perfect for your copy of Lewis Carroll’s works, and a great necklace which proclaims proudly the most famous line “curiouser and curiouser” for all to see. Anyone else love this story as much as I do?

♣ Warm sweaters and sweatshirts on cold winter days.

♣  My tattoos (I have two and I’m sure there’s more coming). For some great blog entries on tattoos, check these out:Tattoos, TattoosTattoos; and Tattoo Tuesday v2.0.

♣ Wearing my boyfriend’s flannel pajama bottoms to bed.

♣ Hot cinnamon spicy tea.

♣ Reading about happy things on It Made My DayWhat made your day today?

♣ My office is doing a Jeans for Haiti week – we get to wear jeans all week Tuesday – Friday this week if we donate $10 to rescue efforts in Haiti. A coworker organized and took donations and I think almost everyone in my office donated. ROCK ON. If you’d like to donate to the relief effort, check out the awesome work that 12for12kis doing and donate here: 12for12k donates the money to Hope for Haiti(And, considering Avatar cost 4 times more than the amount of money the US government is sending to Haiti, perhaps you can skip seeing it (again) and send that $10 to the relief efforts. What do you say?)